If Self-Regulation is your top strength, you self-consciously regulate what you feel and what you do. You are a disciplined person. You are in control of your appetites and your emotions, not vice versa.
Self-Regulation falls under the virtue category of Temperance. Temperance deals with strengths that protect us from excess. It is the practiced ability to monitor and manage one’s emotions, motivation and behavior in the absence of outside help.
Self-Regulation can be viewed as a resource that can be depleted and fatigued. A useful metaphor can be that self-regulation acts like a muscle, which can be exhausted through over-exertion or strengthened through regular practice.
Self-Regulation/Self-Control is a Key To Success
Manage your feelings.
Exercises for Boosting Self-Regulation
Next time you get upset, make a conscious effort to control your emotions and focus on positive attributes.
Set goals to improve your everyday living (e.g., room cleaning, laundry, doing dishes, cleaning your desk) and make sure you complete the tasks.
Pay close attentions to your biological clock. Do your most important tasks when you are most alert.
In the Heat of the Night
March of the Penguins
Movies are an art-form highly suited for inspiring character strengths and helping in the discovery, understanding and exploration of these positive aspects in human beings. Ryan Niemiec (VIA's education director) and Danny Wedding explore 1,500 examples in their book Positive Psychology at the Movies, 2nd edition (2014). They explain that the best positive psychology movies meet the following criteria:
- Strong portrayal of a character's signature strengths which are critical to the character's identity;
- Depicts conflict/obstacles that challenge the character;
- The character uses strengths to overcome the adversity;
- The film's overall presentation is uplifting or speaks deeply to the human condition.
- The film holds great potential to generate cinematic elevation (i.e., it causes people to feel motivated to do good and increases their altruism) or cinematic admiration (i.e., it causes people to want to improve themselves and copy the model).
I Walk the Line – Johnny Cash
Better Man – Keb Mo
Stronger – Darden Smith
Third Week in the Chelsea – Jefferson Airplane
Day by Day – Fifth Dimension
Man in the Mirror – Michael Jackson
Bare Necessities – Jungle Book