If Social Intelligence is your top strength, you are aware of the motives and feelings of other people. You know what to do to fit in to different social situations, and you know what to do to put others at ease.
Social Intelligence falls under the virtue category of Humanity. Humanity describes strengths that manifest in caring relationships with others. These strengths are interpersonal and are mostly relevant in one-on-one relationships.
Social intelligence involves two general components:
Social awareness: what we sense about others
Social facility: what we do with our awareness
The Tuohy Family Matriarch Makes A Connection
Social Intelligence Motto
Exercises for Boosting Social Intelligence
Practice noticing, labeling and expressing emotions. After you become aware of an emotion, label it, and if appropriate, express it to another.
Write five personal feelings daily for four weeks and monitor patterns.
Watch a favorite TV program or film muted and write feelings observed.
Don’t Come Knocking
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
Movies are an art-form highly suited for inspiring character strengths and helping in the discovery, understanding and exploration of these positive aspects in human beings. Ryan Niemiec (VIA's education director) and Danny Wedding explore 1,500 examples in their book Positive Psychology at the Movies, 2nd edition (2014). They explain that the best positive psychology movies meet the following criteria:
- Strong portrayal of a character's signature strengths which are critical to the character's identity;
- Depicts conflict/obstacles that challenge the character;
- The character uses strengths to overcome the adversity;
- The film's overall presentation is uplifting or speaks deeply to the human condition.
- The film holds great potential to generate cinematic elevation (i.e., it causes people to feel motivated to do good and increases their altruism) or cinematic admiration (i.e., it causes people to want to improve themselves and copy the model).
Getting to Know You
Five Years – David Bowie
The Gambler – Kenny Rogers
People – Barbara Streisand
Everybody Hurts – REM
Everyday People – Sly & The Family Stone